tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4450600504446189466.post1034017156135713083..comments2024-03-28T01:58:36.460-07:00Comments on modern, serious dating is dead: blog writer blog, i mean blockColleenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05725937889821891201noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4450600504446189466.post-33111940607370371312008-03-17T08:00:00.000-07:002008-03-17T08:00:00.000-07:00i agree with becky. she (the author [and becky to...i agree with becky. she (the author [and becky too]) makes a lot of valid points. i just don't know if i agree with her where she places responsibility for the new-men. actually, maybe i do agree with her. she spends a bit of time talking about how this demographic (25-40 single men) are exactly the demographic advertisers are looking for. so there are all these marketing strategies aimed at celebrating this kind of responsibility-free lifestyle where you can spend all your time buying things. and buying things conveniently becomes the only status marker for this group. it's a vicious cycle.brianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10360813274831933394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4450600504446189466.post-30309516925679413492008-03-16T00:12:00.000-07:002008-03-16T00:12:00.000-07:00i didn't think the article sounded bitter. i think...i didn't think the article sounded bitter. i think there is a lot of truth in it. i don't even think that it's bashing men. i just think it's saying men aren't committing or marrying because there isn't much societal pressure to. also, there's no biological clock ticking. i don't think the article mentioned that, though.beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17841533876840097787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4450600504446189466.post-31589926024723224032008-03-14T13:10:00.000-07:002008-03-14T13:10:00.000-07:00well she can only blame herself. and society. most...well she can only blame herself. and society. mostly society.natalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13592346192336399989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4450600504446189466.post-64200521285863883182008-03-14T11:39:00.000-07:002008-03-14T11:39:00.000-07:00i'm willing to bet money that ms. kay hymowitz isn...i'm willing to bet money that ms. kay hymowitz isn't married. that's one bitter articleChelseahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11795151264688809212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4450600504446189466.post-81651304522203698442008-03-12T20:02:00.000-07:002008-03-12T20:02:00.000-07:00oh that reminds me of the blog i was going to post...oh that reminds me of the blog i was going to post about being an adult.natalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13592346192336399989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4450600504446189466.post-64656365198433181242008-03-12T19:18:00.000-07:002008-03-12T19:18:00.000-07:00i agree brian. i hate the idea that being married ...i agree brian. i hate the idea that being married and having kids makes someone more of an adult than me. it's just not true. i'm not sure what makes an adult.beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17841533876840097787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4450600504446189466.post-2448393534994369002008-03-12T17:08:00.000-07:002008-03-12T17:08:00.000-07:00i wish someone would have told me nuclear families...i wish someone would have told me nuclear families were going out of style while i was busying squandering my child bearing years.nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17051277550058807250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4450600504446189466.post-89081115292864613562008-03-12T16:55:00.000-07:002008-03-12T16:55:00.000-07:00i guess my problem with the article is that it see...i guess my problem with the article is that it seems to equates marriage and family with adulthood. while that may be true (depending on how you define each of those words), why is it important to even be an adult? also, it seemed like the article was pretty nostalgic for nuclear families. that's in the past.brianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10360813274831933394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4450600504446189466.post-13696606179485079932008-03-12T15:33:00.000-07:002008-03-12T15:33:00.000-07:00it's interesting to think about the cause and affe...it's interesting to think about the cause and affect of everything. are women single longer because men are stuck in this phase and won't commit/grow up? or are women single longer because they can be as well? it's much more socially acceptable now for women to be single, 30 and career-minded. did men's disinterest in committing at a younger age contribute to women focusing on careers instead of relationships? or did this give the men the freedom to not have to think about committing? is there a correlation? are they independant of each other? i don't know if the author is placing blame, but it kind of feels like she is.beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17841533876840097787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4450600504446189466.post-1514391975684103542008-03-12T15:11:00.000-07:002008-03-12T15:11:00.000-07:00i guess i dont really blame men for wanting to sta...i guess i dont really blame men for wanting to stay in the adolescent phase as long as possible. it is probably infinitely more fun than having a mortgage (almost always a mistake). if i didnt have biology breathing down my neck i would probably be doing the same thing.nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17051277550058807250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4450600504446189466.post-59007170369964539372008-03-12T13:29:00.000-07:002008-03-12T13:29:00.000-07:00i didn't even realize there was an article linked ...i didn't even realize there was an article linked to your post until now. and then i read it. it was pretty good, although i don't agree with all of it. i need to think about this some more.beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17841533876840097787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4450600504446189466.post-55735906583705663912008-03-12T12:42:00.000-07:002008-03-12T12:42:00.000-07:00i thought that the most interesting point she made...i thought that the most interesting point she made was that women who are evolving into a world in which they can achieve their educational and career goals while raising a family find that men have evolved into a world where family is not a requirement and have less interest. so its not hard to have a family because you are working so much. its just harder to find someone who wants to have children with you.<BR/><BR/>which is probably why becky and i talk about adopting babies together. as a straight (non) couple. its going to be hard to explain...natalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13592346192336399989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4450600504446189466.post-16687716456133628872008-03-12T12:00:00.000-07:002008-03-12T12:00:00.000-07:00should we talk about our responses to the article ...should we talk about our responses to the article here?<BR/><BR/>so i think it's over-generalized and i'm unsure where she's placing the blame. on men? or is she placing blame? i think so, since she's stating that the contemporary man-child is primarily selfish and immature. that may be true, but how much can you blame them for it? it seems like it's advantageous to marketers and advertisers and so on to have a defined and identifiable type of consumer who has disposable income and few responsibilities. but she also makes some interesting points.brianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10360813274831933394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4450600504446189466.post-52268457501002582982008-03-11T18:13:00.000-07:002008-03-11T18:13:00.000-07:00maybe i subconsciously was encouraging everyone to...maybe i subconsciously was encouraging everyone to blog.natalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13592346192336399989noreply@blogger.com