Tuesday, July 10, 2007

no one has ever invited me to the grand canyon

i really liked this picture of my friend shane. i didnt ask his permission to use it in this post but i know he hates (the idea) of blogs so there is a very low risk of him ever finding out. my mother just notified me that my little brother has been talking to a girl for twenty minutes and asked if i had ever talked to a boy for that long. i replied yes at least a hundred times. she was pretty impressed.
sometimes i think about kierkegaard and his ideas about human love being selfish. it kind of is. i mean if you fall in love it seems by definition you stop thinking/caring/and/or/noticing that other people exist and have feelings (or eyes for those who touch excessively). i wonder if it is possible to somehow pull yourself out of your relationship long enough to notice others. i really only notice how self absorbed a relationship makes me when i am not dating and i am just a spectator to other relationships. so maybe falling in love is nice but not so nice for those around you. if you are the type that talks about your relationship excessively and/or stops hanging out with your friends and/or you dont wait until others have safely left the room to get to second base and/or you talk about how much you like your signifcant other's hair/eyes/ass to every person you come into contact with then perhaps you should sit back and think wait...i should change that.
kierkegaard thinks you can do it and so do i.
for the record i really like it when people hold hands. i think its the nicest form of affection there is. way better than kissing and/or pet names.

26 comments:

Colls said...

i would think about that too when one of my roommates would bring her boyfriend over and treat me like i didn't exist. once when i tried to join their convo, the boyfriend said it was just between them. if you're going to be in my livingroom 2 feet away from me don't expect to have a private conversation.

natali said...

remember when andrea gave her boyfriend our spare key and he would come in the middle of the night and rub her back. add that to the list of things i am not ok with.

becky said...

i don't really agree that being in love makes you more self absorbed than you might already have been

becky said...

although, i DO agree that you shouldn't go to 2nd base in front of your friends (family, roommates, people)

natali said...

i think i can make a pretty good case that when you are in love your attention becomes hyper focused. but i think it has to do with chemicals so really its not anyones fault.

Colls said...

yeah i was going to mention the night rub incident but i figured you'd take care of it.

Jefe said...

I hate existentialists. I also hate fatalists.

natali said...

i am crazy about fatalists. they are hands down my favorite.

Sarita said...

Do chemicals induce baby talk?

natali said...

baby talk is a direct result of estrogen changes. thats why when women fall in love its worse and after they have children. i should have been a doctor. clearly.

becky said...

do people really speak in baby talk? i don't like that. i DO like pet names, though. but only if there awesome...things like "sugar tits", or "sweet ass". oh, come to think of it, i do like it when my man calls me babe or baby, but i don't really consider those pet names. more like cat calls. yeah, cat calls from your boyfriend/husband.

lisa said...

in fact, people DO talk in baby talk. and they do it in public. usually they are the same people that feel okay about sharing intimate moments (ie; face-stroking, 2nd base, intense eye-gazing, private/inappropriate conversations, etc) with anyone in their proximity.

brian said...

sweet-ass and sweet-tits are totally sexist. so if your boyfriend is calling you that, it might be a joke, but it might also be a joke masking his hatred for women. in my opinion, pet names should be random. or developed over a period of time through inside jokes.

i think requainted love is probably the best. but it can also makes you insane.

brian said...

i meant unrequainted

Colls said...

brian what does requainted mean? i couldn't find it in the dictionary anywhere. i like to do my research.
baby talk makes me ill.
what about "you're cute. no you're cute. nooooo you're cute. oh stop...tickle tickle"
i enjoy random pet names such as ones i use with natali like pea pod.

brian said...

maybe i meant unrequited.

natali said...

i like pet names. i dont like unrequited love because it takes too much energy and i am lazy emotionally speaking. oh and i like being called pea pod.

natali said...

becky has always wanted to date mel gibson which is why she loves the pet name sugar tits.

aaron said...

unrequited love is the easiest and possibly purest form of love. you just love someone so much even though they barely like you. you try and get them to like you, but after a while you just give up trying and focus on loving them from a far. you can be so lazy.

brian actually wrote this on aaron's computer.

natali said...

i dont know. it seems a little to close to those people who only like what they cant have and those people annoy me. plus all that longing has to take up time. i dont know. i still think its too much work. but a house plant turned out to be too much work for me so what do i know.

becky said...

unrequited love might be pretty selfless as far as love goes, but it is also the kind of love that induces suicide. so basically what i'm saying is it's win/win.

brian said...

well, if you want to kill yourself because someone doesn't love you back then it's different from the love that i'm interested in. unrequited love can be pure specifically because you love someone regardless of how they feel or act towards you. they could even hate you and you still love them. the most important thing is that you give them their space.

Colls said...

thanks for the explanations. i am pondering this...

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